Book Club Discussion Questions
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Introduction
What gives a life meaning? How is love found? Nuala O'Faolain, noted Irish
Times columnist, took on these questions with striking intimacy and candor
in her bestselling and acclaimed memoir,
Are You Somebody? Hailed as
"a beautiful exploration of human loneliness and happiness, of contentment
and longing" (Alice McDermott, The Washington Post), the book struck
a chord with legions of readers on both sides of the Atlantic and became a #1 New
York Times bestseller.
My Dream of You followed her memoir's path,
hitting bestseller lists around the world and confirming O'Faolain's remarkable
gifts as a writer.
Set in Ireland and spanning a century-and-a-half,
My Dream of You
unfolds the compelling stories of two women and their quests for passion,
connection, and fulfillment. On the brink of fifty, Kathleen de Burca is looking
back at her life and asking questions about her choices. A globetrotting staff
writer for the London-based TravelWrite syndicate for more than twenty
years, she is used to living
and loving
on
the run. Since the age of twenty-three, when she betrayed her first meaningful
intimate relationship, she has had a steady succession of brief encounters,
which have become less satisfying and more humiliating with each passing year.
After a quick round of blows
culminating with the sudden
death of her cherished colleague and closest friend
Kathleen
decides to leave her job and rethink her life. Intrigued by a divorce case
dating back to the days of the Potato Famine, she decides to try her hand at
writing about it. The case, called "The Talbot Affair," detailed the
clandestine liaison lasting three years between the wife of a British landlord
and an Irish servant in Ireland in the 1850s. After a bitter thirty-year
absence, Kathleen returns to Ireland, the land of her troubled childhood and
turbulent heritage, in search of answers to her questions about desire and
lasting love.
A contemporary story wrapped around an actual event, both equally gripping,
My
Dream of You is rich in timeless and relevant truths about adversity and
human nature, passion and true love. Having created two complex, deeply feeling
women at the mercy of their times and circumstances, and forced to make
difficult choices, Nuala O'Faolain proves she is as gifted and powerful a weaver
of fiction as she is an observer and chronicler of real life.
Discussion Questions
- "I knew all about the act of love as a non-event," Kathleen de
Burca says, "but I still believed it was the act in which one person
can truly learn another, and truly build on what they learn." (p. 64)
In what ways has this belief affected her relationships with lovers over the
course of her life? Does she still believe this at the end of the book? Why
or why not?
- What does Kathleen's relationship with Caro reveal about her character?
What about her friendship with Alex? With Jimmy? How does each person affect
Kathleen's sense of herself?
- The loss of Jimmy is the catalyst for Kathleen's return to Ireland. In
what ways does his death challenge her perception of herself as "well
defended against crisis, if it came from outside"? (p.7) What is she
guarding herself against? What are her vulnerabilities?
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- How does the author develop themes of identity and belonging throughout the narrative?
- What role does the setting play in shaping the characters' decisions and relationships?
- Discuss how the ending reframes the events of the story. Were you surprised?
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