Book Club Discussion Questions
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Introduction
Like many of the most powerful novels written over the last thirty years,
A
Heart of Stone is a tender yet haunting coming-of-age story that explores
the complex emotional legacy that family life bequeaths to the individual. But
Renate Dorrestein offers a new and strange perspective by showing how even the
happiest of families can both suffer and inflict terrible devastation—and
how an imperfect and amazingly strong girl manages to survive the most horrible
of family tragedies while retaining both her sanity and her spark for life.
The van Bemmels do not seem to be dysfunctional in the ways readers of
contemporary fiction have come to expect. In fact, they appear to be a normal,
warmly affectionate, emotionally healthy family. Frits and Margje clearly love
each other and their children; they've provided a secure and stimulating
environment for their sons and daughters to grow up in. They seem unlikely
candidates, therefore, to have visited upon them a tragedy worthy of Sophocles
or Aeschylus. It is all the more terrifying, then, to absorb the shock of the
calamity that is gradually revealed over the course of the novel. For
twelve-year-old Ellen, it is almost more than she can bear. She suffers
survivor's guilt, feels she "has no right to live," and, being the
"cement" of the family, as her father had called her, she blames
herself for failing to keep the family together.
The by turns harrowing and humorous story of how she frees herself from this
guilt and forgives her parents unfolds with seamless grace in the dual time
frames of past and present, as Ellen, pregnant and newly separated from her
husband, reexamines her life. Promiscuity, alcohol, and many years of
psychotherapy have failed to bring her peace but have certainly not dulled her
spirit. But when she decides, spontaneously, to move back into her childhood
home and to pore over the photographs in the family album, she makes an
unconscious commitment to confront, and ultimately put to rest, the ghosts of
her past. Half aware of what she is doing, Ellen pieces together the frayed
memories of an idyllic childhood. She relives the idiosyncracies of her adored
siblings, as well as her parents' news-clipping service with its decades of
Americana—from Coca-Cola to Kissinger and Neil Armstrong's
first step on the moon. But she also takes herself down darker passageways. In
allowing herself to remember her mother's growing paranoia and delusion, her
father's apparent passivity, and her own bewilderment and helplessness, she
relives the nightmare that was visited upon her family. Inciting her to tell
herself that she "really can't count on anybody, ever," and that she
has to "harden her heart, for always," the rage, pain, and
self-reproach such memories release nearly turn her into someone who feels
nothing. But in the light of new revelations—from within as
well as from others—she begins to rightly understand her
past and be free from its grip.
Much of the power of
A Heart of Stone comes from Dorrestein's
exploration of how the stories we construct to explain our lives determine our
lives. And in writing that is vivid, unflinching, and informed by a deep and
precise understanding of the shifting human psyche,
A Heart of Stone
illuminates how getting the story right gives us the freedom to be who we really
are.
Discussion Questions
- Why has Dorrestein titled her novel A Heart of Stone? How does the
novel breathe life into this stock metaphor? What roles do its elements—heart
and stone—play throughout the book? What ironies are
involved in the fact that the literal heart of stone in the novel is her
family's gravestone?
- Names and naming play a crucial role in A Heart of Stone. Ellen
feels partly responsible for Ida's illnesses because she had maliciously
suggested the ugliest name she could think of for her; she insists that
"Carlos," not "Michael Adrian," is her youngest
brother's name; she notes her father's instruction to his students,
"Only that which is labeled can be retrieved"; and, at the very
end of the novel, she asks Bas to pick a name for her daughter. Why is
calling things by their right names so important to Ellen? Why is simply
learning the name for her mother's illness so liberating? What is the
implication of her deciding not to name her daughter "Ida-Sophie"?
- What effects does Dorrestein create by letting the reader know, early in
the novel, that Ellen's family was lost to her but withholding the specifics
about how and why until much later? Why would Ellen, as narrator, choose not
to disclose this information? How does our gradual discovery of the family's
"cataclysmic tragedy" mirror Ellen's own process of knowing and
self-discovery?
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- How does the author develop themes of identity and belonging throughout the narrative?
- What role does the setting play in shaping the characters' decisions and relationships?
- Discuss how the ending reframes the events of the story. Were you surprised?
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